Doing What I Want Experiment: Week 2
Realizations from week 2:
24/7 self-improvement doesn’t work, or at least it doesn’t work for me. I’ve given myself permission to fall back on old habits occasionally if I’m feeling too vulnerable or uncertain. More on this in a future post because it feels important.
Convenience should not be a major deciding factor for fun activities. Fun or rewarding activities are worth investing extra effort in.
Being open to spontaneity is part of good decision making. “But I always . . .” and “But I never . . .” thoughts are not.
Being nice to myself is a valid reason for making a decision. I don’t need further justification.
For minor decisions, I don’t have to make the absolute best possible choice, I just have to make a choice I’ll be happy with. It doesn’t matter whether the Mai Tai will make me fractionally happier than the Margarita or I like the blue sweater slightly more than the red one. If I’ll be happy with either choice, I can choose on a whim and be done with it. I don’t have to try to be more happy or as happy as is humanly possible as the result of a decision. Buying a sweater is not the same as buying a car.
In response to the Procrastination or Executive Function Fail post, waggermama recommended the Android app Regularly for keeping track of repeating tasks that don’t have fixed calendar schedules. You know, those things you completely forget about until you suddenly find yourself wondering “when was the last time I . . .?” Some of the sample tasks the app offers are: replace toothbrush, clean car interior, change sheets and call mom. I’ve added things like change kitchen sponge, backup computer and replace Brita filter.
A few features that I really like:
If I didn’t get something done yesterday, today the task shows as “due today” rather than “overdue.”
Tasks are color coded based on how soon they’re due.
A log keeps track of when each task was done in the past, noting days early, days late or on schedule.
There’s a place to make notes about a task in the log.
The app will keep sending reminders on overdue tasks and you can control how often the reminders appear.
The blog We Are Like Your Child (where I’m a co-moderator) is looking for guest posts. The mission statement from the blog’s Facebook page describes it as “a collaboration of Autistic (& occasionally, other disabled) adults. We discuss our difficulties & how we work with or around them from a neurodiversity & social model of disability perspective.” If you have something that might fit, check out the submission guidelines.
The first print copy of “I Think I Might be Autistic” arrived this week. Here is it on my bookshelf, next to the portable radio that my grandfather gave me in the mid-70s and the dayplanner I got back in 1992 after having a massive work-related Ican’tdoanythingright meltdown:
I should have the review copies in my hands this week, so if you’ve already said you’d like a review copy, I’ll be getting in touch soon. If anyone else is willing to write a review (at Amazon, on your blog, anywhere at all!) let me know in the comments or on my FB page, Twitter, etc. I’ll send you a real honest-to-goodness dead tree copy.
And I promise that’s the last you’ll book update you’ll have to put up with for a while.